Ephesians 1:6 “ To the praise of the glory of His grace, which He freely bestowed on us in the Beloved.”
Here is something that I suffered my entire live and God set me free through Grace. This felling stop us to enjoy the fulness of what Jesus conquered for us,and this felling is REJECTION:
Rejection it’s one of the most common things to address in people’s lives. It seems that almost everybody is affected by rejection. It’s crucial to understand how it works, and how to realize that a full knowledge of God’s acceptance and love is the key to be healed from rejection..
As a Human Being we were created to be loved, accepted, and appreciated.
Rejection starves a person from love and acceptance that they were designed to receive.
The problem is that when we turn to others or even ourselves for that love and acceptance, we are setting ourselves up for failure and the damage of rejection. Only God can be trusted as the source of our identity.
Why does rejection starves us to be loved and accepted?
Because it destroy the very person that we are. It destroys our self-esteem, and destroy who we are and God’s purpose in our life. God never wanted us to feel rejected or abandon. The same way when Adam disobeyed,God did not reject them but they felt rejected by God.
He desires for us to know who we really are in Christ, and realize how deeply He loves, accepts, and appreciates us, so that we can live out the fullness of what all Jesus conquered for us.
God’s Word tells us that without being rooted and grounded in the love (and acceptance) of God, we cannot experience the fullness of God in our lives.
Religion still teaching us that we can gain God’s acceptance and approval based in our obedience, performance, obeying that 10 commandments.. So, we start praying, fasting, reading the Bible, obeying to earn points before God… And here where we are caught in the misery web of religion..
When we are performing well, we fell the super spiritual believer, but when we mess up many times we fell a wretch, condemn person.. When the true is totally different..If first we are not grounded and rooted in the true that our sins, past, present and future are totally forgiven, that we are righteous before God just believing receiving as a Gift, not as a reward of good works, and God is already totally pleased with us because of What Jesus did for us..
Isn’t about our obedience, but Jesus obedience at the cross that today we can stand before a Holy God. We need to understand the We are under grace and all that God gaave us in Jesus His by Grace, we cant do nothing to obtain.. So we need to be established that we are under a New Covenant, totally forgiven, totally accepted, totally loved not by what we do but by what Jesus did for us….
Going on with the main subject of this post, Rejection has a powerful away of destroying a person’s life in a way that few other things can. The sad fact is that the number of people who are affected by rejection is staggering. If we want to be all that God has created us to be, then overcoming rejection and it’s affects is vital and absolutely essential.
I copied this from a brother
..Rejection has a lot of fruit which can widely vary from one person to another. Some of the common symptoms of rejection include:
- Rebellion in both children and adults
- Fabricated personalities (being somebody you aren’t, in order to be accepted)
- The tendency to reject others, so that you aren’t the first one to be rejected
- A tendency to always wonder if a person rejects or accepts you
- The need to fit in or be accepted by others and be a part of everything
- Self-pity where a person feels bad for themselves being all alone
- Inability to be corrected or receive constructive criticism
- Rejection creates an environment where you are starved for love or just don’t fit in
- A tendency to blame God (“Why did He give me this big nose? Why did God make me so short?”)
- A sense of pride that says, “How dare they reject me!”
- Opinionated personality and the need to be right about things
- Feelings of worthlessness, insecurity, or hopelessness
- Seeking a parent’s approval is a sign that your basing your identity upon what they think of you
- Envy, jealousy, and even hate can be rooted in rejection
- Fear of confrontation (because your identity is based upon what they think of you)
Many is of us are basing our identity and who we are upon how well we perform at something in life. Whenever we base who we are upon our performance, our doing or our being correct about something, then we fail, it is a blow to our identity.
When we have a hard time admitting we are wrong, or receiving constructive criticism its a signal of an underlying problem with rejection.
How do I know that? Because we are basing our identity, who we are, upon our ability to be right about everything. Stubbornness can also be rooted in rejection as well for this same reason. We have to be right, or else we feel worthless… that’s because “who we are” (our identity) is based upon us being right. .
Self-rejection is another it’s other big issue.
Self-rejection is when a we reject ourselves . We do not like who we are. This can often lead to self-hate, self-resentment, etc. It is often tied in with self-unforgiveness, if we had made mistakes in our life which we deeply regret. Just as it hurts when others reject us, it can do just as much damage when we reject ourselves.
Then there’s perceived rejection, when we receive something as rejection when it really isn’t. For example, “Why is that person not coming over here to talk to me?” When the person may not be trying to reject us, but just feel shy at the time in stepping out and meeting us(or anybody else for that matter). People who have spirits of rejection can have a tenancy to receive perceived rejection, because the purpose of a spirit of rejection is to make us feel rejected.
A person who feels like God is always angry at them usually has issues of rejection. Perceived rejection can also make a person feel as if God has rejected us.
The root of rejection
The root of rejection is actually incredibly simple: damage from rejection is the result of a misplaced identity. Whenever we base our identity on somebody or something other than what God’s Word has to say about us, we make ourselves vulnerable to the damage of rejection. Many of us will base our identity on what our parents, teachers, or friends think of us. This sets a lot of children up for Performance Orientation bondages later in life, because their parents give them conditional love based on their grades or performance.
What or who defines who we are? Is it we job? Is it what our parents thought or think of you? Is it what our friends think of you? Is it how well we perform in the workplace? How much money we have? Is it how good of grades we get? Is it what we think of ourself? Is it how physically strong, fit, or tall you are? When we die, will those things continue to define who we are?
Rejection and rising above rejection is all about identity and what you base your identity upon. The key to overcoming rejection, is to solve the identity problems.
When we base our identity upon what the Word of God has to say about us, we will become virtually rejection-proof. We can become immune from the wounds of rejection as long as we are not basing our identity upon what that person thinks of us.
Some dynamics of rejection
The closer a person is to us, the deeper their rejection can wound us. Authority figures are also able to deeply wound us, because we look up to them and rely upon them. Parents often pass rejection on to their children when they say things such as, “I’ll love you when you get good grades.” Conditional love causes feelings of rejection and bondages such as performance orientation and drivenness.
Lets get our identity from God’s Word!
It is vital that we base our identity, who we are, upon what God’s Word says about us. When we do, we become virtually immune from the devastating and hurtful effects of rejection. God promises never to leave or forsake us, He tell us that He made us King and Priest, so when our identity is based upon what He says of us, we can be assured that we’re not going to face rejection coming from Him.
So what exactly does God’s Word tell us about who we are in Christ?
- Because of God’s great love for us, we are adopted into His family [1 John 3:1], and made joint heirs with Christ [Romans 8:17]
- We are made to sit in heavenly places (of authority over all demons, sickness, etc.) with Christ [Ephesians 2:6]
- We are blessed with all spiritual blessings in Christ [Ephesians 1:3]
- We are the righteousness of Christ through faith, thus being made right before God [Romans 3:22]
- We are entitled to a clean conscience before God because of the Blood and can have full assurance of faith when we go before Him [Hebrews 10:22]
- Our sins have been removed from us as far as the east is from the west [Psalms 103:12], and God Himself has chosen not to remember our failures [Hebrews 8:12]
- We are loved with the same love that the Father has for Jesus Himself! [John 17:23]
There’s much more on the Word of God is so rich and powerful in helping us define who we are in Christ. .
Overcoming religious strongholds is necessary to overcome the effects of rejection. You’re not going to settle rejection issues fully until you get it down into your spirit that you are accepted, loved, and appreciated by God. Dealing with religious strongholds is vital to this process, as religion paints God as distant, cold, and impersonal. Bringing your relationship with God into proper perspective is a vital step in the process of overcoming the strongholds of rejection.
Tearing down the strongholds of rejection is as simple as merely receiving, with childlike faith, what God’s Word has to say about your identity, who you are as a new creature in Christ, who is called to life, purpose, and meaning in Christ.
The one thing that you absolutely cannot overlook is correcting your identity. You need to start seeing yourself for who you are in Christ, and the person that God has really formed within you. Your identity must come from Him and what His Word says about you.
The Holy Spirit has shown me that whenever we feel the hurt and pain from rejection, it’s because we our identity depends upon what that person thinks of us. If our identity didn’t depend on what others think of us, we would be virtually immune from the damage of rejection. That is why our identity must be based upon the Word of God, and what God has to say about us. That is the unshakable rock to which we need to build our house upon.
So, it’s vital to understand who we are in Him, and that we are loved and accepted to be healed from rejection.. Of you are a counselor and many people reject your help, criticize you just keep acting in kindness towards them because what they have isn’t a bad heart but a lack of knowledge of their identity, in their acceptance and knowing that their are loved….
Keep just waiting in God’s time to have the opportunity not to judge them but to tell them what God says about them and their eyes will be open for the truth..
Shalom and Peace